Life Lessons Learned in Bali
Traveling has always taught me more about myself and others. I’ve learned to be more compassionate, thankful and perceiving through my journeys around the world. My recent trip to Bali continued those life lessons. Bali is a highly spiritual country and everyone who comes here is touched by the mysticism of the land. Everyone I know how has traveled here comes home changed forever.
Life lesson #1- Love is limitless.
From the time I was a small child, I’ve known I had a big heart, I was always open to giving and helping others. Yet, as I’ve grown older I started to guard my heart. Guarding my heart meant for me, whoever came around would have to be around forever and that wasn’t just people but also became the rule for places and things. I attached myself to anything i loved and desired and was scared of losing the very thing I love. There was a time I thought if I loss the very thing i loved, i wouldn’t have another. I knew i had attachment issues and thought i was working on them but it was coming to Bali that made me have an AHA moment. As I was headed to Lempuyang temple on the back of a scooter I had a lot of time to reflect as i had to stay up and alert. I realized i can love multiple things, places and people with the same passion and intensity. I also could move on from a love and learn to fall for another love. Love is not something to be rationed or withheld nor is it something we have a little supply of. So no more thinking I only can date my husband or i have to stay in LA because I love it. I’m now more open to change because I realize the ability to love means you can welcome more love into your life.
Life lesson #2- Relationships are transient.
The beautiful thing about this world is that there are billions of people within it. Literally billions, with different beliefs, ethnic backgrounds, lifestyles and upbringings yet for whatever reason two souls get to cross paths and experience each other when the probability of meeting is so rare. On my travels, I met a wonderful group of yogis who I may have never met if I hadn’t been at that very place at that exact time. That is magical in itself, the idea that you were meant to meet someone because you simply did. With that in mind I also realized the same magic that can bring to people of opposite side of the earth together can take them away from each other. Each soul is meant to go on it own journey experiencing another. If you think about it, have you ever met a friend right after suffering the loss of another? It’s as if it was all meant to happen the way it did and you know longer serve a purpose for growth in each other’s lives, at least at that moment in time. Initially this concept saddened me but the longer I sat with the the more I saw the greater harmony in this. Reflecting on past experiences is what makes nostalgic so endearing. In a global community we are meant to interact move around and develop into high-functioning beings because of an imprint left on us by another human.
Life lesson #3- Fear is crippling.
While in Bali, I took a moment to write down my fears and sit with them. I was surprised how easily the list of fears flowed out of me. In a matter of moments my small piece of unlined paper was filled with all the doubts that have held me back. I realized in that moment that I spent so much of my time honing in on my worries that I didn’t have the headspace to focus on pursuing anything or even think about my life purpose. I contemplated on what I would do with the list, would I burn it and give it a special send off? I spent the next few days facing my fears head on and days before leaving Bali I was organizing my luggage and came across the dreaded list once again. The moment I saw the lift I felt annoyed. Mostly at myself for still carrying it around so I’m a moment of clarity, I tore it up and threw it in the hotel trash because that’s all the attention it needed. No ceremonial burning, no sending it away in water. Just trashed. And that’s how fears should be treated. Fear has kept me from blogging regularly, pursuing many of my goals, and it was time to get rid of them. I was in a place that I wouldn’t full experience if I was worried, anxious and not present.
Life lesson #4- Now is the perfect time.
I wanted to travel to Bali for a few years now. In fact, I moved to the west coast just so it could be easier for me to explore Asia and other countries bordering the Pacific. I put off Bali for a while because although I was well travelled I was little overwhelmed with the idea of traveling there alone on a whim and also thought Bali would be a place I could travel to with a significant other. At the beginning of 2018 I tweeted that I would manifest a baecation in Bali for Christmas that year. Christmas 2018 came and went with no travel partner and that’s when I decided I should no longer wait. Life is short and the reality is depending on the future isn’t a real source of security or stability. Only the present moment is a space of surety and thankfully I realized this by deciding to go with or without someone else. Going changed my life and connected me with different people that I never would have met if I didn’t go.
Life lesson #5- Be still.
Travelling allows me to momentarily disconnect from the day to day hassles of life forcing me to be in a space of stillness. This time of solitude or quiet allows my mind to think through decisions and be more proactive over reactive. For example, this recent trip to Bali I was at a standstill work-wise and was figuring out my next move. I wear many hats so I found myself at a complete crossroad. I submitted to acting gigs, applied for full-time jobs and continued my yoga mentorship after recently completing my 200 hour yoga training. Being in another country and allowing God to take control I had no choice but to allow the chips to fall where they may. It made this girl who constantly weighs out the pros and cons to the point she confuses herself the ability to be decisive because I finally let go of control and let life work itself out which it did. Some opportunities just didn’t work out scheduling wise while others seemed to be perfect timing. It was the act of stillness and letting go of control that allowed favor back into my life.
Life lesson #6- Happiness is within grace.
i couldn’t help but recognize the true joy of the Balinese people. Every morning they wake up to give offerings to the gods as a thank you for what they have before they start the day. Littered across the streets of Indonesia are little trays with crackers, flowers and incense asking the gods for blessed storefronts and thanking them for the abundance they already have. This simple act of gratitude reverberates throughout their lives and is a part of the culture. I learned simply being grateful is an act that can change your outlook on life. When you’re outlook is different so are your thought and what we think we manifest. I realized I had lacked gratefulness for what I had, not outrightly but the desire for craving more and better but not thanking the universe for the gifts I already had showed a lack of appreciation. How can we want more if we haven’t done much with the favor we have?.. I asked myself. I may not have a religious practice of leaving offerings but can I make more of an effort to take advantage of the life I’m given, the gifts within me and make time for being more present? I could and I left Bali looking forward to it.